A good mother’s work is never done
Mother’s Day is nearing and I thought I might come up with a description for such a job. Here goes- it’s a 24 hour job, 7 days a week. No sick time or overtime pay. Must be very well organized, able to leap over small buildings, see around corners and have eyes in back of your head, all to protect your children. Multitasking is a major portion of the job. Must be able to carry the baby while holding a bottle in his mouth, while cooking on the stove, washing dishes, doing laundry and gathering the other children and husband to the table for meals. Ok with being the last to eat (cold) meals.
Be a good example for the little ones as they watch every move you make, very word you speak. You’ll hear it repeated in the coming days! No sick times means performing as best you can with a 102 degree fever, a headache ready to explode or vomiting in between dealing with their needs. No overtime pay means waking at 2 in the morning with a screaming little one having a bad dream or nightmare. May involve rocking a colicky baby or a baby cutting teeth. Although there is no paper money changing hands for this outrageous, stressful job, if you’re lucky you will be paid in the following way.
With your eyes in the back of your head, you will keep the little ones from hurting themselves or getting “boo-boos”; multitasking means they will have clean clothes, food to eat, and spend mealtime as a family at the table (a great blessing and great time to engage older children). Mothers can teach their little ones to help out according to their ages. They enjoy helping mom fold clothes, etc. especially if it’s made into a game.
Remember to say nice things and teach by example. Little ones love to say “please”, “thank you” and “excuse me”. When was the last time you heard those words coming from toddlers? Or teens? When you’re sick the children can sense that and sometimes behave alittle better. Or even better, that’s a time to call in re-enforcements in the form of Grandma! A playdate is a good time for mommy to recuperate.
Moms come in all shapes, sizes, ages, prior experience. However, if you’re lucky enough to have a mother who unconditional loves you, you possess one of the greatest gifts of life. Even though her role in your life changes over time, her title never does. She needs to know that you are forever grateful for the sacrifice she’s made to get you where you are today- a parent yourself. She’s a wealth of information and instruction that you can draw from.
In 1914 President Woodrow Wilson declared that Mother’ Day should be celebrated as a national holiday on the second Sunday in May. George Washington once stated “My mother was the most beautiful woman I ever saw. All I am I owe my mother. I attribute all my successes in life to the moral, intellectual and physical education I received from her.”
Attributes of a good mother should include: understanding, strength, loyalty, wisdom, guidance, someone your child can pour out his heart to and unconditional love. Our children are like mirrors- they reflect our attitudes in life, good or bad. The bad would include: not being understanding, weak, cannot be loyal, has no wisdom or guidance to pass on, children afraid to confide in their mother, love only with conditions or restrictions. So if you’re a mother and realize you’re overwhelmed or could do better, please seek help. Your children (and yourself) deserve it. If young mothers did not have a good example in their own mothers, you can make a difference. Resolve to change the things that you know were wrong, make them right and pass the right attributes down to your family.
I would like to wish the mothers/grandmothers/step-mothers etc. of the Ohio Valley a wonderful Mother’s Day. I have six grandchildren and love their mothers immensely, as I do with all of my children. Yes, God knows I’ve made my share of mistakes and I’ve learned many a hard lesson, but hopefully it’s made me a better person! Henry Ward Beecher (minister) said “The mother’s heart is the child’s schoolroom.”
Next month we’ll talk about Father’s Day.